In my view, the kids that I see running around these days are a) more disruptive b) more rambunctious c) less cooperative d) and have less respect for authority
and the big question is: why?
the answer: We as a people have forgotten how to PARENT!
Every single time I see a child out of control I need to look no further than to their parents to see what the main problem is. These "parents" either hover over their children 24/7 not allowing them room to breath or they ignore the children until something bad happens.
What we have forgotten is what the main goal of parenting was supposed to be:
-To prepare the child for adulthood-
As a parent you need to do several thing correctly in order for your children to succeed in this ever-shrinking world of ours.
1) You need to set a good example for your child.
a) in social situations - how should they treat others, peers, elders, authority
b) in inter-personal relationships - what does a HEALTHY marriage look like?
- what is intimacy?
- how should we treat our mothers/wives/sisters
2) You need to help your child maneuver through a VERY confusing post-high school labyrinth
- school selection and student loans are very scary things to face on your own
3) Teach your child fiscal responsibility
- give them a small allowance on a weekly or monthly basis linked to grades AND chores so they can learn how to save and EARN money
- show them the pitfalls of carrying debt
- for god's sake, HELP them to establish credit!! If it's co-signing on their first car, or adding them to one of your credit cards (but not giving them a card themselves) will go a long way to helping them qualify for cards at a reasonable rate of interest
4) Take a pro-active and POSITIVE stance on their grades. you will be surprised how easy it will be if you make it a big deal when they are very young. Once he/she is hooked on scholastic success, they will almost always strive for it in every class.
5) discipline.
- do not be over-bearing but do be strong - if they don't respect you, your words carry no weight
- support the decisions made by your spouse in front of the kids - you may talk about them in private
- if you have more than 2 children, be sure to spend QUALITY time ONE-ON-ONE with each at least every-other week. find something special to do on an individual basis.
- just like the grades, if you are strong with the kids early, you will be surprised at how easy it will be to control them in the future.
- Always explain your child's behavior with them and what you did not like about it
- Watch your mouth around young kids
- never encourage them to break ANY laws.
6) keep a relatively clean house
7) encourage them to explore alternative views on life, art, culture
8) do not force-feed your children religion or politics
- these two are very important
- they have no idea how these concepts came about, who to believe, or where to turn if something is confusing to them.
- these are extremely divisive topics and if discussed, should be done so in a very civil manor with neutral tones all-around
-I DO REALIZE THAT THESE TWO THINGS ARE VERY IMPORTANT TO MOST OF YOU- THEY ARE VERY IMPORTANT TO ME TOO - BUT CHILDREN SHOULD NOT BE CONSTRAINED TO A SPECIFIC AVENUE OF THOUGHT - OUR CIVILIZATION HAS LOST THE VERY THING THAT MADE US SO GREAT - OUR CREATIVITY - FREE THOUGHT CAN ONLY COME FROM POEPLE WHO ARE FREE TO THINK FOR THEMSELVES>
Tuesday, July 3, 2007
wow long time no post... you all need to watch this
Now, I'm not a big conspiracy person but this movie makes a good argument. I personally like part 1 but those of you who consider themselves religious may not be so fond. You can watch this thing in parts on youtube if you want to skip around.
www.zeitgeistmovie.com
www.zeitgeistmovie.com
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
something odd
First of all, Sorry I havn't posted in a while.
OK, So my family goes to "the river" which is a specific segment of the Colorado River near the Imperial dam for famiily vacations/weekends. Ok, so this river has a pretty strong current and many "sand bars" which are areas on the river which naturally collect large amounts of sand. We park our boat on them, and setup chairs, horseshoe's, BBQ, and try not to get sun burnt. Think Memorial weekend.
SO, back to this strong current. Now, most parents make sure that the kids who can't swim, or swim poorly wear a life vest all day. Because, like I said, we are surrounded by water and the current is.. . yes, strong.
SO, I was drinking my beer, minding my own business when I heard my mom call out to me from our boat to come help. I looked over and saw some kid struggling to swim near our boat and since I'd seen him earlier with his sisters I began to jog over to see what/if anything I needed to do.
I hear my mom call out again to "hurry!" at which point this kids head bobbs under water and he doesn't come back up.
I sprint accross the sandbar jump in waist deep water and pull him out coughing and choking on water.
Yay me. I rule.
SO here is the odd part, not only were his parents not watching him and not involved in the rescue, but they didn't seem to care at all that he almost died. AND, they didn't bother coming over to say "thanks"...
Some people should never have kids. I am trying to cut them some slack by suggesting here that maybe they didn't understand the situation but apparently my sister overheard this boy's sisters tell their parents that he almost drowned and apparently they said, "why did you almost drown"????????
alright, I'm done.
OK, So my family goes to "the river" which is a specific segment of the Colorado River near the Imperial dam for famiily vacations/weekends. Ok, so this river has a pretty strong current and many "sand bars" which are areas on the river which naturally collect large amounts of sand. We park our boat on them, and setup chairs, horseshoe's, BBQ, and try not to get sun burnt. Think Memorial weekend.
SO, back to this strong current. Now, most parents make sure that the kids who can't swim, or swim poorly wear a life vest all day. Because, like I said, we are surrounded by water and the current is.. . yes, strong.
SO, I was drinking my beer, minding my own business when I heard my mom call out to me from our boat to come help. I looked over and saw some kid struggling to swim near our boat and since I'd seen him earlier with his sisters I began to jog over to see what/if anything I needed to do.
I hear my mom call out again to "hurry!" at which point this kids head bobbs under water and he doesn't come back up.
I sprint accross the sandbar jump in waist deep water and pull him out coughing and choking on water.
Yay me. I rule.
SO here is the odd part, not only were his parents not watching him and not involved in the rescue, but they didn't seem to care at all that he almost died. AND, they didn't bother coming over to say "thanks"...
Some people should never have kids. I am trying to cut them some slack by suggesting here that maybe they didn't understand the situation but apparently my sister overheard this boy's sisters tell their parents that he almost drowned and apparently they said, "why did you almost drown"????????
alright, I'm done.
Monday, May 14, 2007
ok so it's may 14th
and my life is getting a little busy, so I'm very sorry for not posting in almost a month.
lets see, anything new in the news?....
haha, consider this: http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20070514/wl_nm/pope_brazil_indians_dc
the Pope has said today that not only are the traditional beliefs of Indians a "step backward" from Christianity, but he also claims that the church never imposed itself on the native peoples!!
wow, either he is in spin-mode or he doesnt have a good understanding of history because it is well documented that the Christian religion was spread via the sword. As that article points out, Millions of natives died as a DIRECT result of missionary actions.
good article if not far too short in pointing out the hypocracy
lets see, anything new in the news?....
haha, consider this: http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20070514/wl_nm/pope_brazil_indians_dc
the Pope has said today that not only are the traditional beliefs of Indians a "step backward" from Christianity, but he also claims that the church never imposed itself on the native peoples!!
wow, either he is in spin-mode or he doesnt have a good understanding of history because it is well documented that the Christian religion was spread via the sword. As that article points out, Millions of natives died as a DIRECT result of missionary actions.
good article if not far too short in pointing out the hypocracy
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
damn... if you are ever in burlingame, ca
Do not get stuck in the Hyatt and attempt to eat or drink. They fucking raped us.
Model UN anyone?
- it was a lot of fun but I think I'd take sleep and food before going back to act on Liberia's behalf
-Knuckles!!
Model UN anyone?
- it was a lot of fun but I think I'd take sleep and food before going back to act on Liberia's behalf
-Knuckles!!
Thursday, April 5, 2007
what it means to be an American
In the most patriotic sense, I ask myself what it means to me...
1) If, when at work, you focus on getting the work done rather than watching the time tick away
2) When giving your children "a better life" than you had is your top priority
3) When family comes before everything else
4) When you know that all politicians are crooks, but you'll vote for one of them anyway
5) When you'll stand behind your brother and back him up, even when he's probably wrong
6) When you bitch about the gas prices, but love your SUV
7) When you pay your taxes, even when your country spends it overseas...
8) When doing the right thing often comes at too high a price
9) When continuing your education always means large amounts of debt
10) When the rich will always have a leg up in life
11) When the poor waist their time fighting eachother rather than fighting the system
12) When Unions lose and CEO's offshore
13) When your rent is more than half your pay
14) When your credit card debt requires debt refinancing
-When all of these things are true, you will indeed, be an American
1) If, when at work, you focus on getting the work done rather than watching the time tick away
2) When giving your children "a better life" than you had is your top priority
3) When family comes before everything else
4) When you know that all politicians are crooks, but you'll vote for one of them anyway
5) When you'll stand behind your brother and back him up, even when he's probably wrong
6) When you bitch about the gas prices, but love your SUV
7) When you pay your taxes, even when your country spends it overseas...
8) When doing the right thing often comes at too high a price
9) When continuing your education always means large amounts of debt
10) When the rich will always have a leg up in life
11) When the poor waist their time fighting eachother rather than fighting the system
12) When Unions lose and CEO's offshore
13) When your rent is more than half your pay
14) When your credit card debt requires debt refinancing
-When all of these things are true, you will indeed, be an American
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
2 strange words: Barak Obama
Just annouced that he raised almost as much $$ as Clinton with twice as many people donating $$ to his campaign. Can you guess what this means?
-The race has begun.
On the flip-side - John McCain fell well short of his goal and Mitt Romney. Guess what that means...
Not fucking much. You get held POW by North Vietnam = you never fucking give in. McCain is in for the LONG HAUL.
-----either way this next election goes, I feel sorry for whoever takes over the 3-war-mess as well as the impending recession. (housing CRISIS anyone?)
-The race has begun.
On the flip-side - John McCain fell well short of his goal and Mitt Romney. Guess what that means...
Not fucking much. You get held POW by North Vietnam = you never fucking give in. McCain is in for the LONG HAUL.
-----either way this next election goes, I feel sorry for whoever takes over the 3-war-mess as well as the impending recession. (housing CRISIS anyone?)
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